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I use language that wouldn’t put a person on the defensive, such as telling my feelings rather than blaming or accusing.
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___________ I’m really good at this!
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___________ I’m okay at this.
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___________ I really need to work on this!
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I am not immediately defensive when my spouse brings up an issue or problem.
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___________ I’m really good at this!
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___________ I’m okay at this.
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___________ I really need to work on this!
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I speak kindly to my souse (no sarcasm or name-calling).
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___________ I’m really good at this!
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___________ I’m okay at this.
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___________ I really need to work on this!
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I will apologize.
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___________ I’m really good at this!
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___________ I’m okay at this.
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___________ I really need to work on this!
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I take time to listen to what my spouse is saying. (I’m not just thinking about what I’m going to say next while he or she is talking).
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___________ I’m really good at this!
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___________ I’m okay at this.
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___________ I really need to work on this!
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I stay engaged with my spouse and don’t just shut down and not try to talk things out.
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___________ I’m really good at this!
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___________ I’m okay at this.
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___________ I really need to work on this!
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