Choosing a Mate by Making a List
Below is a list of possible characteristics you may want in a mate.
A. Put a “1” to the side of all items that are an absolute MUST in a mate.
B. Put a “2” to the side of any items that are IMPORTANT but negotiable.
C. Put a “3” next to any items you would LIKE but could live without.
D. Cross out any items you WOULD NOT WANT IN a spouse.
E. Add any characteristics not on this list that you feel are NECESSARY and assign them a number, as stated above.
___1. Is friendly and popular with others.
___2. Shows concern and compassion for others.
___3. Respects authority.
___4. Does not use addictive substances such as alcohol or tobacco.
___5. His/her parents have a happy marriage.
___6. Does not use drugs.
___7. Is considered by most to be physically attractive.
___8. Shows affection appropriately.
___9. Is thoughtful.
___10. Attends the same church I do.
___11. Has same religious beliefs.
___12. Is not childish.
___13. Is not moody.
___14. Uses clean language.
___15. Is dependable.
___16. Is responsible for his/her own actions.
___17. Is good with children.
___18. Takes care of self, has good grooming practices.
___19. Is easy to talk to, listens to me, is good at communicating.
___20. Has interests similar to mine.
___21. Is in good physical health.
___22. Is in good mental health.
___23. Is considerate.
___24. Has a good relationship with his/her parents.
___25. Has a sense of humor.
___26. Deals well with conflict and /or disappointment.
___27. Is forgiving.
___28. Is intelligent.
___29. Has experience working, can hold down a job.
___30. Has an appropriate amount of schooling.
___31. Is tidy — keeps things clean and in working order.
___32. My parents approve of her/him.
___33. The people I respect most think highly of him/her.
___34. Desires a normal family life.
___35. Wants children.
___36. Does not intend to have children.
___37. Belongs to my race.
___38. Has a reasonable amount of self-confidence and self-esteem.
___39. Makes me feel good about myself when we are together.
___40. Owns or is buying a car or house.