Sermons on Genesis | Finding Family Forgiveness | Genesis 45:1-15

Genesis 45:1-15

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A. 	A justice of the peace in a small New England town was called upon to 
	perform his first marriage ceremony.
	1. 	After he had the knot securely tied, the young couple continued to stand 
		before him as if expecting some further rite.
	2. 	Whereupon the justice stammered out in a brave attempt to round off 
		the ceremony with something of a religious turn, "There, there, it's all 
		over! Go and sin no more!"
B. 	Wouldn't it be nice if when we got married we really went and sinned no 
	1. 	We know, however, that's not the way it is in real life; we do sin when 
		we get married and we often sin against our spouse.
		a. 	When a couple gets married, they often have unreal expectations 
			of what marriage should be like. Those unfulfilled expectations 
			lead to frustration, anger, and hurt.
		b. 	Careless words can leave deep scars on a new marriage.
		c. 	Anger can cause us to act in ways that otherwise we would not act.
	2. 	How do we go on in a family when we have so much hurt and 
		resentment? How do we find forgiveness for our spouse or other 
		members of our family who have wounded so deeply?
C. 	This morning, we wish to explore the case of Joseph to learn how we, like 
	he, can forgive.
	1. 	Joseph, after all, had so much he could hold against his brothers.
		a. 	Because Jacob loved Joseph more than his other sons, Joseph's 
			brothers couldn't stand him: "When his brothers saw that their 
			father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him, and 
			could not speak peaceably to him" (Gen. 37:4).
		b. 	When Joseph told his brothers his dreams about their paying 
			homage to him, they became jealous (Gen. 37:11).
		c. 	Then, of course, his brothers took Joseph, sold him into slavery, 
			and they reported to their father that Joseph had been killed.
	2. 	Joseph had every reason to be hateful and expect justice, but we find 
		Joseph being forgiving toward his ten brothers who sent him to slavery. 
		How could Joseph forgive when he had been wronged so greatly?


A. 	Even though his family had done him so wrong, Joseph still loved them.
	1. 	Gen. 43:26-30.
		a. 	Joseph asked whether or not his father was still alive.
		b. 	When he saw Benjamin, he went out and wept.
	2. 	When Joseph finally revealed himself to his brothers, "He wept so 
		loudly that the Egyptians heard it, and the household of Pharaoh heard 
		it" (Gen. 45:2).
	3. 	When Joseph saw his father, he "fell on his neck, and wept on his neck 
		a good while" (Gen. 46:29).
	4. 	Here's something we can learn from Joseph:
		a. 	He still loved and valued his family, even his rotten ten brothers 
			who sold him into slavery.
		b. 	He knew there was value in his family even when his family had 
			severely disappointed him.
		c. 	He knew that family was a small circle and that family needed to 
			be protected.
		d. 	He knew this was the family he had, and he couldn't go out and 
			find a new family.
B. 	What about when our family severely disappoints us? Will we find value in 
	our family?
	1. 	There is value in marriage.
		a. 	Because there is such value in marriage the author of Hebrew 
			wrote, "Let marriage be held in honor by all" (13:4).
		b. 	There is something special- honorable - about being married.
			1)	There is some reason you feel in love with that person in the 
				first place and there's a reason you married that person in the 
				first place.
			2)	Granted, our spouses are human beings and they have their 
				faults, but there's something special there, too.
			3)	Will we seek to find the good in our spouses, or will we seek 
				to find their faults?
	2. 	Just as Joseph couldn't go out and hunt other brothers, we can't go out 
		and hunt out another family.
		a. 	Our children are our children, our parents are our parents, our 
			siblings are our siblings, and 	our spouses are our spouses.
		b. 	You know that God never intended for us to get married, try 
			married life, and if our spouse didn't suit us trade him or her for 
			another, God always intended we would be committed to
			1)	It's not that when our spouse disappoints us, we can think, 
				"Well, I'm going to try again."
			2)	Granted, Jesus said that in the case of adultery, hurt can be so 
				deep that divorce and remarriage is acceptable.
			3)	Yet, with other hurts, we need to accept our family for what it 
				is, and find value.
C. 	In psychotherapy, there is a technique referred to as Cognitive Behavioral 
	Therapy (CBT, for short).
	1. 	In CBT, you really attempt to change people's actions by changing their 
		cognitions, their thought process. That's really what I'm arguing for 
	2. 	We need to focus and think on the good in our family, rather than the 
		bad. When we think on 
		the good, we'll act accordingly. Will we focus on the good in our 
		family or on the bad?


A. 	Joseph told his brothers, "It was not you who sent me here, but God; he has 
	made me a father to Pharaoh, and lord of all his house and ruler over all the 
	land of Egypt" (Gen. 45:8).
	1.	You know the story of Joseph and how God sent him to Egypt.
		a. 	A severe famine was coming, and Joseph was the one who could 
			advise Pharaoh about how to horde the plenty and dole out that 
			surplus when the famine hit.
		b. 	Because of Joseph's leadership in Egypt, Abraham's posterity was 
			preserved through whom the Messiah would come. Had Joseph 
			not gone to Egypt, it's very likely that Abraham's descendants 
			would have died in the famine in direct violation of what God 
			promised Abraham.
	2. 	You know that God controls all things, and he has used his providence 
		to bring about what he deems best.
		a. 	Notice what God told Jeremiah: "Before I formed you in the 
			womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I 
			appointed you a prophet to the nations" (Jer. 1:5).
		b. 	Remember what Peter said at Pentecost: Jesus was "handed over 
			to you according to the definite plan and foreknowledge of God" 
			(Acts 2:23).
B. 	Is it too much to think that even when our family severely disappoints that 
	God is in control and has a plan?
	1. 	God does not make us or those around us sin.
		a. 	Everyone has free choice; God allows us to determine for 
			ourselves what we will and will not do.
		b. 	Notice again what Peter told the crowd at Pentecost: "This man, 
			handed over to you according the definite plan and foreknowledge 
			of God, you crucified and killed by the hands of those outside the 
			law" (Acts 2:23).
	2. 	However, is there some plan that God could have even when those 
		around us hurt us?
		a. 	"We know that all things work together for good for those who 
			love God, who are called according to his purpose" (Rom. 8:28). 
			Is there some good that can come from the hurt and 
			disappointment we feel?
		b. 	"We also boast in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces 
			endurance, and endurance produces character, and character 
			produces hope, and hope does not disappoint us" (Rom. 5:3-5).
	3. 	What about when our family disappoints? Is there something we 
		ourselves can learn? Is there some way in which we can grow? Is there 
		something God can teach us?
	4. 	Joseph certainly seemed to recognize the hand of God, and he was able 
		to forgive his 10 brothers.  Will we see the hand of God and be able to 


A. 	Joseph told his brothers, "I fear God" (Gen. 42:18). A look at his life 
	indicates that he did honor God.
	1. 	When Potiphar's wife enticed Joseph to sexual sin, he said, "How can I 
		do this great wickedness, and sin against God?" (Gen. 39:9). When she 
		persisted, he fled out of the house.
	2. 	When Joseph was cast into prison, he interpreted the dreams of the 	
		cupbearer and the baker.
		a. 	He could have said, "I'm in this despicable place because I tried to 
			do what God wants. I won't tell them what God's saying through 
			their dreams."
		b. 	Yet, he did not. And, when God sent Pharaoh a message, Joseph 
			interpreted it.
	3. 	When his brothers came to him, Joseph could have retaliated.
		a. 	He could have denied them grain, but he did not.
		b. 	When the ten brothers first reported to Joseph, he threw them into 
			prison for three days on charges of being spies. When the brothers 
			went back to get Benjamin, Joseph kept Simeon in prison. What 
			would have prevented Joseph from throwing them into prison? But 
			he did not.
B. 	When our family sins against us, we have a decision to make: will we like 
	Joseph do the right thing, or will we not do the right thing?
	1. 	When speaking about worrying over monetary matters, Jesus said, 
		"Strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness" (Mt. 6:33).
		a. 	If we honestly strive to put the kingdom of God first in our lives, 
			we, like Joseph, will be able to say, "I honor God."
		b. 	Let's think about a couple of ways we can do the right thing when 
			our family disappoints.
	2. 	We can seek non-retaliation.
		a. 	"Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave room for the wrath 
			of God; for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the 
			Lord'" (Rom. 12:19).
		b. 	Will we avenge ourselves when we are sinned against?
			1)	When we are hurt, will we seek to hurt in return?
			2)	When an evil word has been spoken to us, will we seek to 
				speak an evil word in return?
	3. 	We can seek to speak properly.
		a. 	"Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that 
			you may know how you ought to answer everyone" (Col. 4:6).
		b. 	When we are disappointed in others, will our speech be "gracious, 
			seasoned with salt"?
			1)	Will we try to find the most hateful, despiteful thing we can 
				say to speak, or will we be gracious?
			2)	Will we speak in anger, or will we attempt to be gracious in 
				our speech?
	4. 	Will we seek to do the right thing even when our family has severely 
		disappointed us?


A. 	As we read through the narrative of Joseph, we find him serving his family.
	1. 	He gave his brothers grain when they came to him.
	2. 	The second time the brothers came to him Joseph threw a feast for 
		them. He told his steward, "Bring the men into the house, and slaughter 
		an animal and make ready, for the men are to dine with me at noon" 
		(Gen. 43:16).
	3. 	Joseph helped his brothers settle in Egypt - "Joseph settled his father 
		and his brothers, and granted them a holding in the land of Egypt, in the 
		best part of the land, in the land of Rameses, as Pharaoh had instructed" 
		(Gen. 47:11).
	4. 	Joseph didn't sit around and think, "They were so cruel to me, and they 
		owe me something." Instead, he went out and served them.
B. 	Will we serve our family even though we might have been wronged?
	1. 	Jesus told us that greatness comes from serving.
		a. 	"Whoever wishes to be great among you must be your servant, and 
			whoever wishes to be first among you must be your slave" (Mt. 
		b. 	Greatness doesn't come by saying, "Hey, you did something 
			against me, and you owe me something." Greatness comes by 
			saying, "Let me serve you."
	2. 	Will we serve when we've been wronged?
		a. 	Will we take a long, hard look - even when we've been wronged – 
			and decide how to serve our spouse?
		b. 	Will we make a conscious decision to serve rather than to be 



A. 	I will be the first to admit that saying what's been preached this morning is 
	far easier than putting it into practice.
B. 	Yet, we, as Christians, have been called upon to put this into practice.
	1. 	"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God 
		in Christ has forgiven you" (Eph. 4:32).
	2. 	Will we forgive those who have wronged us? Do you need to come this 
		morning and find God's forgiveness?
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